Self-deception, the greatest enemy within yourself

Self-deception, the greatest enemy within yourself
22 May 2016

Failing to succeed

Every human in this world, for at least once in their lifetime, would have wanted to succeed in their life in their own way. Seeing yourself accomplishing the toughest is one such great feeling no one wants to ignore in their lives. However, in spite of all the odds they might have overcome in their life, great goals they have set to accomplish, a clear focus on the target, people still fail. Unfortunately, unless they know the art of raising when you fall, some do not want to raise when they fell the first time so they tend to quit the race.

Most often than not, the enemy who was the reason for your failure is not outside but comfortably living within yourself trying to activate at any moment you give it a chance.

Success is not easy

The way you describe success may be different from how I see it. The only common fact is that success is not easy. It is not a one-time accomplishment that you can hold on for your lifetime. People who wants to be successful have greater responsibilities, as, with each step comes a decision to take the next toughest. You can choose to take the next step or choose not to and quit, as there is always an alternative way which is easy and comfortable but does not reach the goal.

Knowing your enemy

Whether people realize it or not, each one has this enemy within themselves, the self-deception. Self-deception is the process of denying or rationalizing relevance, significance or the importance of an opposing argument within yourself or from outside. It is when we try and deceive ourselves by convincing our self of a truth or a lack of a truth. Self-deception may come in various forms, but it is most likely to rip you off of your persistent beliefs you had set for yourself. Every person should be aware of this enemy they have within themselves.

Why is self-deception so easy?

As hard is success, so easy is self-deception. A very common example of self-deception is an alcoholic who is self-deceived in believing that his drinking is always under control. In this example, quite often the alcoholic, even though he might know that this is a false statement, tries to believe that it is not. He wants to believe something that is not true, to be true. This does not happen at an instant but he forces himself to self-deceiving by convincing himself into believing that his drinking is under control. Self-deception is easy because we deceive ourselves for our own pleasure and for what is comfortable.

Overpower the enemy

In order to overpower self-deception, we should always keep one eye opened and focused on the goal but keep the other closed to focus on ourselves. Like I mentioned earlier, self-deception is not instant. It is a process of convincing ourselves into being deceived. The act of self-reflection gives us a chance to mitigate and overpower the deception during this process.

  • Keep yourself away from the noise as often as you can and focus on yourself.
  • Train yourself to believe in what you believed is true to reach your goal.
  • Mold yourself into what your target or goal calls for.
  • Hope for the future which is more beautiful and rewarding than you can see now.

Abilash Praveen

I have over a decade of experience in technology and business. It is my passion for the development of the rural and the underprivileged in the society that has driven me towards contributing the wealth of my professional and personal experiences for the welfare of the society.